<\/p>With 2014 drawing to a close, I\u2019m feeling the inevitable wistfulness that accompanies turning the calendar page. It\u2019s been a year of breakthroughs and new beginnings for me \u2014 on several fronts.\n

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Celebrating the big 4-0 with my brothers Ray (left) and Steve<\/p><\/div>\n
For the first time, I found myself seriously considering a move out of New York<\/a>. But after multiple trips to\u00a0potential new hometown L.A., I realized it was a change of perspective and not a change of zip code that I needed. The experience of attending Oprah\u2019s The Life You Want event in September hastened this long overdue mental shift.<\/p>\n
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Oprah!<\/p><\/div>\n
The two-day event at Newark\u2019s Prudential Center offered wisdom and inspiration from Miss O, Rob Bell, Mark Nepo, Elizabeth Gilbert and Iyanla Vanzant. One of the mantras that truly hit a nerve came from Iyanla\u2013<\/p>\n
\u201cThe life you want is on the other side of the labor pains to birth it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n
That\u2019s when I finally (!) realized I have literally been living in the past. And so began the cathartic process of changing my home from being about my deceased parents to being a reflection of me. Repainting, decluttering and discarding has never felt so good.<\/p>\n
Of course, no recap of the last 12 months would be complete without reflecting on my love life. This year, I have been reminded several times that people appear, and in some cases, reappear exactly when they\u2019re supposed to. 2014 gave me the opportunity to make amends and reconnect with two significant others.<\/p>\n
Just before Thanksgiving, I was reunited with someone special I dated last year. During a wonderful evening together, we effortlessly picked up right where we left off. I apologized for the times that I wrongfully held him accountable for previous romantic disappointments. As always, he responded with understanding and tenderness \u2013 reaffirming for me how fortunate I am to know him.<\/p>\n
More recently, I heard from an ex-boyfriend I dated when I was in my twenties and then again briefly nine years ago. He too gave me and taught me so much during the time we were together. He made the most of the connection we had while completely respecting that we were at different stages of life.<\/p>\n
When we reconciled back in 2005, I was recovering from a recent breakup and ended up hurting him as a result. I should have reached out to him sooner to say how badly I felt about it. Being the wonderful person he is, he took the initiative instead \u2013 giving me the opportunity to express my remorse and reiterate how much I will always value what we\u2019ve shared over the years.<\/p>\n
I am ending 2014 exactly where I should be, with a clean slate emotionally and the desire to look forward and not back. Maybe life really does begin at 40.<\/p>\n
Happy New Year!<\/p>\n<\/body>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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